The veil

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And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their chastity, and not to reveal their adornments except what normally appears. Let them draw their veils over their chests, and not reveal their ˹hidden˺ adornments except to their husbands, their fathers, their fathers-in-law, their sons, their stepsons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons......... [24:31]

This ayat has been a controversial topic for both muslims and non-muslims. Even within myself. On June 9th, this year 2020 I made the decision to begin wearing hijab.

With that decision, yes I had some fear and worry. I haven't really received harsh or negative feedback from this decision. I have had a comment or two directed at me but nothing so severe. Yes, there may have been some looks but none that may be seen as "negative" that I have personally noticed or set attention to. One thing new though is many men will naturally lower their gaze or give a kind nod. 

I have felt some affliction from the Ayat. Not because I feel I am being told to do something I don't want, rather for so long I felt like I just didn't get it. Does it or does it not say wear a head covering? (more to do with Arabic/English translations and understanding) 

At this point within myself I feel like Yes! I should wear it for my creator and for intention. The more I ponder this Ayat I do feel like it should be worn, for myself and by no means is this a judgement I am placing on others. Each woman must make her own choice on this matter and no other person gets to make this decision for her. Alhumdulillah (praise be to God).

So, why did I start to wear my covering? Well, that's the point of this post. Not because I want to flaunt but because I feel like it needs to be said that wearing the covering is not "oppressive" not in any way. I don't feel like I am missing out on anything or am being punished for being a woman, nor do I feel degraded. 

I feel happy, content, and guided in this choice. I made the right choice for me.

Here's why: For me, there is just something so beautiful and modest in a woman who covers (not saying anyone who wears less - is or means any less). I feel like there's this certain confidence and respect from it that maybe other people don't realize. When I am wearing it I feel stronger morally, physically, you name it. It doesn't oppress me -- it strengthens me. 

It's funny a common statement I have heard (even before wearing hijab) is "you're gonna burn up in that" or something like "aren't you hot?" but ironically even in some really hot weather lately I haven't even noticed much heat, really all around comfort. So there's another plus! 

In the end there was no negative to my decision and there shouldn't be for anyone who makes the choice to wear it.

What i'm saying is, its not an oppressive statement, it's a choice from love and a much deeper meaning than what surface level conveys. Nobody can change that.

If you are contemplating on wearing it, do it for you and God, it will always be between just you two and no-one else.

If you're not contemplating and just wanted to know why on earth someone would wear such a thing, then here's one reason and now you know.

I'll say it again in BOLD

It's not oppressive and it never will be, inshallah.

Salamu Alaykum
(peace be upon you)